Here's The Thing... You're Not Crazy

One of the more popular memes I share in our Facebook Stronger Than Grief Group - often generating a good bit of impressions and response... Ever catch yourself buying-in to accusatory, corrosive, judgmental messaging along those lines about yourself?

Just to clear up any lingering confusion, let's, without a doubt - make this crystal clear. You are not crazy. You are not suffering from depression. You are not losing it. You are not broken. You are not a failure. You are not hopeless. You are not weak. You are none of these things. Nor a host of other deflating messages you perhaps have been telling yourself along the way...

Simply put, you are grieving. Why is that an important distinction to make? Because there is no mystery as to what's going on with you... There is a clear-cut, completely understandable reason you have been struggling to get a handle on things, the way you have. And best of all, there are things you can learn, and steps you can take to foster meaningful changes in your life. And there are proven grief relief and recovery insights, skill sets, secrets, tools, and knowhow - that you can learn and implement to commence to successfully get back to You. However, solutions are a pretty difficult thing to bring about when we're mired in confusion about what all is even going on.

Now, you might be thinking... But what if I feel some of those other ways at times? Crazy, consumed with depression, or broken with nowhere to turn, for instance...

Well, as it turns out, our feelings originate primarily from our thoughts and perceptions. So, the more we think and tell ourselves something, the deeper our feelings grow on the matter. And the thing is, as those feelings grow deeper, it makes the thoughts on the matter even stronger. More often than not, continually recycling the process over and over again...

Alternately, the sooner we consistently begin feeding ourselves more inspired and empowered messages... And the sooner we learn to readily recognize, and cease giving credence to false and sabotaging messages, that endeavor to take up residence in our respective minds - whether by way of others or ourselves...

Before we know it, the way we feel invariably commences to fundamentally change! And so does our respective degrees of struggle and suffering from there...

So please, please... Should you catch yourself feeling any of those untrue, toxic aforementioned ways, or even catch yourself giving those messages to yourself... Don't buy-in to them as if they are true. You are not abnormal, and there's nothing wrong with you as an individual. You have simply not yet been able to recover and heal from having had your cherished loved one, perhaps even someone you would have willingly given your life for - unceremoniously and mercilessly ripped from your life this way.

And the fact that you simply yet to have completed the processing of the worst of your grieving is perfectly natural - and deserving neither of any apologies, justifications, nor backhanded putdowns you have perhaps labeled yourself with... In fact, hopefully such inaccurate, harmful, and defeatist descriptors and descriptions of yourself will no longer be entertained, treated as legitimate, nor ever be allowed to take root again.

After all, a primary objective in all this is supposed to foster things becoming less agonizing, anguishing, and excruciating for you - serving to maximize, and extend the duration of, your struggling and suffering. So, don't forget that - okay??!! And, as it turns out, shifting the nature of messaging you're letting in, and feeding yourself, is one of the easiest changes you can implement, to begin effectively fulfilling that primary objective.

And finally, one final recommendation before wrapping up... Should you find yourself in the future, once again feeling the kind of dissatisfaction in your grieving progress that, in past instances - triggered those negative descriptors and descriptions of yourself... Know that a much more more advantageous way to respond, is pausing to most productively ask yourself... "Is it high-time I committed to getting the much-needed help, insight, skill sets, tools, know-how, and expert support needed to, once and for all, dramatically maximize my grieving progress - and never again have the need to feel this way?"

Because that path, is very much open to you as well... So, don't forget that.

And one more time for the road... You are not crazy! Got that??!!

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I'm Coach D Anthony. I'm a Grief Recovery and Empowerment Coach, with over a decade of grief healing expertise. And my personal mission is to fundamentally alter the attitudes, conversation and ingrained beliefs associated with death of loved ones - freeing Survivors of devastating loss (like yourself) to stop merely surviving in the shadows, burying their feelings for fear of negative perceptions and forfeiting years of their lives to debilitating pain, heartache, loneliness, guilt, sorrow and hopelessness. Further, my purpose is to help people begin to learn what’s necessary to finally escape all-consuming grief - and cease forfeiting months (and years even) of their lives. In addition, seeking to foster the rebuilding of relationships with surviving loved ones, the reclaiming of hope and the desire to live again, and last but certainly not least, the honoring of, and living for, lost loved ones...

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